Discernment and Deliberation
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Look for compliments. Have your radar open to receive them. Often we tend to ignore these comments. We were paid to do that, or that's just what we do. Often we feel lost, like we don't know what our contribution to life and society really is. It begins with accepting that compliment. We cannot live in a void. People are affirming our actions every day, if we but allow ourselves to see them. We have a nasty tendency to think we shouldn't receive compliments well. We might become big headed or egotistical. But if we feel lost and cannot see our mark in life, then we've gone too far the other way. If we can discern these moments for ourselves we can get instant life feedback. We can revel in these quiet moments of specialness. When you've truly been complimented and you know it, let how good that moment feels register upon your mind. What a gift someone has just given you. Now, and this is what human kindness is all about, mind you, actively, intelligently, lovingly and deliberately do that for someone else ... offer them the kind of positive feedback you just received. You can deliver these gifts too. People don't always know how they're doing. You can make their day by telling them something positive, by giving them the feedback they need. If they too feel good then the may also be disposed to being more kind towards others. Discern the compliment as it happens to you in your own life. Feel it ... let it register there. And then with deliberation do that for someone else. Watch the atmosphere around you brighten with hope and optimism. cheers. Owen |
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